LD, FB, IQ and more !!

About 2 years ago I was told that I have Amblyopia (lazy eye) and along with that diagnosis I was also told that I have a learning disability.  I didn't have a problem sharing the Amblyopia diagnosis with family/friends but I didn't share the LD part with everybody.  I don't know, I guess I just didn't feel like sharing that after brain and other visual tests, I had the written comprehension of an "eighth grader".  The doctor administering the tests and sharing my evaluation was shocked to hear that I graduated with high honors from high school, got mostly A's and made it through 2 years of college.  He looked at me waiting for an answer and all I could think of was, "I wanted it soooo bad that I did whatever it took to get that "A"."  He told me that I had an above level visual memory and we figured out that speed reading was also something that helped me.   While I was going to college, I took an IQ test, just for kicks.  I remember the score and keep it in mind when I start to feel down about my struggles.  I don't put a lot of weight on intelligence tests in general but it is just a little reminder for myself.  A reminder that I am not "less smart" than anybody else.

http://www.ldonline.org/ldbasics/whatisld/

I currently have 4 or 5 books that I am reading right now.  It takes me a long time to finish a book.  I   often have to read a page and then go back and read it again and sometimes 3 or 4 times.  I try to speed read to process as much as I can before my brain "poops out" on me.  This doesn't mean that I can't learn, it just means that I have to work harder for it.  I also value other means of learning.  I am a very visual learner.  I like to watch documentaries and movies.  I learn from personal experience or the experience others.  My son also learns the same way and has Amblyopia. 

So what does this have to do with FB (Facebook)?  Well, I cannot even begin to tell you how much I have learned since I have joined Facebook.  I like being able to quickly access information and take that information and do other research.  I like to read something or watch something and then share it on my wall.  If it makes sense to somebody else and they can learn from it, great.  If not, they can move along.  I do not post things on Facebook "in order" to have a debate.  If somebody disagrees with what they see or what they read, that is fine.  But, in the end, it is my wall and I will post what resonates with me and what I think to be true at the time.  I change my mind often and keep it wide open. 

Now, going back to my LD, I really like when people respond and share their thoughts about what I post on Facebook.  But, if it is a lengthy comment or you link articles that are really long, please be patient with me.  Also, keep in mind that if you are trying to "teach" me how to think or just continually tell me I am "wrong", expect that I will at the very least delete that post. I often post information about Veganism, Unschooling, Health and Animals.  These are the things I am learning and that I feel passionate about.  Maybe somebody else's life will change for the better the way mine did when somebody posted the Earthlings documentary about a year ago, for example.

I felt compelled to write this blog post and share it on Facebook because I wanted to take a little Facebook break.  The few times I came back to share birthday pictures or check messages, I saw so many wonderful things.  Break over, for now !!!

Thank you to those who took the time to read this and understand me.  Keep sharing your own thoughts and experiences.  Feel free to ask questions about myself or things I share as well.  It is much better than making assumptions or claims about somebody that aren't true.  I will try to do the same.

Waking Up Vegan

"Humans — who enslave, castrate, experiment on, and fillet other animals — have had an understandable penchant for pretending animals do not feel pain. A sharp distinction between humans and 'animals' is essential if we are to bend them to our will, make them work for us, wear them, eat them — without any disquieting tinges of guilt or regret. It is unseemly of us, who often behave so unfeelingly toward other animals, to contend that only humans can suffer. The behavior of other animals renders such pretensions specious. They are just too much like us."

— Carl Sagan

I saw these turkeys up close a few months ago and couldn't believe how beautiful they were.  No more turkey for me.

About a month ago I got sick with the flu.  The first night I was sick I  had all sorts of crazy dreams about animals.  I don't remember many details, just that I was hanging out with animals in their natural habitats.  I decided to do a full detox right after the flu.  I thought, why not? I hadn't eaten for two days anyway.  I did a two week detox consuming mostly liquids, smoothies and eventually fruits and veggies.  In those two weeks, every time I thought about eating meat, I would get sick to my stomach.  I kept thinking about animals and suddenly became conscious of their suffering and ultimate fate onto my dinner plate.  I always thought I could easily be a vegetarian and I definitely understood the health reasons for adopting a vegetarian diet, but this was different.  I really felt compelled to make this change.  I began doing some research, pulled out a couple of my vegetarian cookbooks and found a vegetarian group on facebook for support and answers to my questions.  I soon came across a documentary somebody posted on the facebook group called "Earthlings".  I was only able to get through about ten minutes of the video.  If you take the time to watch, it will explain much better than I could possibly articulate with words, why I decided to become Vegan.

What is a Vegan? : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veganism

Earthlings Documentary : http://www.earthlings.com/

Please be warned though, if you are at all sensitive, it will make you sick.  If you are not sensitive, it will still make you sick.  What I learned as the makers of the film captured footage of the meat industry and how animals are treated shocked and sickened me to the core.  I will never be the same.  But, it isn't just the meat industry.  The dairy and egg industry are just as bad.  There is so much that I am aware of now when it comes to the treatment of animals.  In my opinion, the least I can do is not partake in the purchase and consumption of any more products that involve the use and cruelty of animals.  This is a very personal decision.  It has been surprisingly easy for me to make the changes I needed to follow the vegan lifestyle but I am still learning.  Jose (my husband) watched the documentary.  He made it all the way through.  He was also very much impacted by the film but continues to eat meat.  I have his 100% support and if he ever decides to be Vegan it will be because he decided to and it came from within himself.  He has already made some delicious Vegan Mexican dishes for the family and talks about what he can do to slowly implement meatless options in his diet.  My son will also continue to eat meat for as long as he wants.  He is aware that I am a vegetarian and I am sure we will have many discussions in the future but I will not force him to eat or not eat anything he doesn't want to.  They might change their minds in the future but it will be on their own time.  I am very excited for this new path for myself.  I have already experienced some positive changes in my health and I have become much more creative in the kitchen.  Luis has recently had an interest in cooking and wanting to help in the kitchen as well.  When he is part of the process of making a meal, he is more inclined to taste it and eat it. 



Luis chopping vegetables for Crockpot Quinoa stuffed peppers.
















In the last month I have learned how to make sure I am getting enough protein and B-12.  It hasn't been hard for me.  Here are a few products that I enjoy that accomplish those things (along with taking B vit. supplements):

My next steps are to purchase a few more Vegan books and recipe books.  I am also on a search for "cruelty-free" websites out there for other products such as personal care products and clothing, etc.  I am looking forward to finding more Vegan communities and people who follow this lifestyle and sharing more information and recipes.  I am open to answering questions and concerns.  Wait, one more thing.  This speech sealed the deal for me.  It doesn't show as many graphic tortured animal images as Earthlings but he gets the point across.  It is, in my opinion, the best speech ever !!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=es6U00LMmC4

I know this is a lot of information but for those who really want to know "why" I have made this decision in my life, I have laid it all out for anyone to read/see.  I have nothing to hide and I had to get over the fact that this is yet another "label" to make me more "weird" than I already am but oh well.  I am embracing my "weirdness" and who knows, maybe I will inspire somebody else to live more consciously and see animals as the beautiful sentient beings that they are.

Julian Camping Adventure

Now that I've had some time to recover and edit some pictures, I wanted to share some of the highlights of the Gonzalez family's first camping trip.  There was a lot of learning, laughing, eating and playing but hardly any sleeping.  We stayed in one of the rental trailers at KQ Ranch in Julian.  We decided that a trailer would be a good choice for our first trip.  We thought it would be something in between a tent and a cabin.

  It seems big from the outside but we had to get used to not being able to move around so much.  I guess, in a way, it slowed us down and forced us to be cozy.  Tatiana didn't seem to mind and we even discussed trying out tent camping soon.  She also let Luis have the top bunk.  We promised her the top next time.  When I asked Luis what he liked about camping the first thing he mentioned was being in the bunk bed.   

After we got settled and picked out beds, Luis and Tatiana went to the kids club area.  They had a craft room, video games, air hockey, games to check out and a jumpy outside. 



We explored the campground while Jose took a nap.  We found a playground for Luis, a tree stump that looked like a chair and many beautiful birds. 

When we got back Jose was ready to barbeque and we finished the evening with a card game, reading about the moon and constellations in our camping book (it was a full moon that night) and of course, some s'mores. Yummy !!

  

  

Okay, here is the part where I complain a little.  Just a little.  So, for those that don't know, I am a VERY light sleeper.  I usually have white noise near me so that I can sleep.  Well, I forgot my white noise source and the trailer next to us forgot about the 10pm quiet time rule.  Ahhhhh !! Wouldn't it figure that the whole campground is quiet, not a peep coming from any of the other campers and we rent the trailer right next to the Mariachi music loving family.  I don't even know what time they decided to stop the music.  Needless to say, it was a long night.  But, karma provided payback to our neighbors in the form of two loud children (oh wait, Tati is a teenager) who woke up with the sun.  Mwahahahaha !!

I love mornings in the mountains.  The air is so crisp and clean and cool.  Perfect for a trip to the California Wolf Center (which happens to be located right next to the campground) for a tour.  I am quite certain that this was Tatiana's favorite part of the trip.  She loves wolves and I loved learning about them.  They were awesome.  It started with an educational presentation about their habitat, history, population, etc. and then we went outside to try to see some of them up close.  Unfortunately, they didn't get too close to the fence but I think I was able to get at least one picture of them from far. 

Our last fun activity at the ranch was a game of miniature golf !!

And by about 3pm on Sunday we were all tired and ready to head home.  But, not before stopping at "Mom's" for some apple pie !!

Overall, we had a great time but it was nice to come home to our beds and my "white noise".  I am hoping to continue these camping trips and try out some different campgrounds in the future.

"Hummingbird Parent"

I read an article recently by Richard Louv about children and fear where Bethe Almeras uses the term "Hummingbird Parent" ( http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/people-in-nature/201012/hummingbird-parents-seven-actions-parents-can-take-reduce-risk-and-stil).  She writes, "I tend to stay physically distant to let them explore and problem solve, but zoom in at moments when safety is an issue (which isn't very often)." Now that I've been a parent for 6 years (technically 9 years if I count my years as a step-parent), I've had plenty of time to reflect and decide what "kind" of parent I am.  There are parents that believe in total freedom but overlooking safety and parents on the other end of the spectrum that worry and control every move their children make, surrounding them with fear (sometimes referred to as "helicopter parents").  I'd like to think I fall somewhere in the middle and "Hummingbird" sounds about right.  I am always present and always in Luis' sight but he is free to explore and challenge himself when he feels ready to.  When I am worried that he is putting himself in a situation that is dangerous I often join him or show him and point out the dangers along the way.  For example, Luis loves to climb trees, rocks and anything else within his comfort zone.  When we are at a new park or hiking a new trail I will go with him and show him how to do it safely.  I make sure his shoes are not slippery on the bottom, I make sure he has a way to get down and I stand close by the first time he tries something.  I would rather teach him and show him how to climb a  rock safely than forbid him to do it.  I'd rather show him what poison oak looks like and answer his questions about what happens if we touch it, than forbid him to explore nature.  Lately he has been asking about mountain lions and bears.  We have been talking about going camping a lot lately and he understands that we will be in the mountains.  We found a video on youtube that talks about what to do if we ever encounter a wild animal such as a mountain lion. 

After 6 years of watching him, starting with Gymnastics when he was 2, I am confident in his ability to judge and assess his environment.  I have seen him decide not to do something because he feels it is too high and I have seen him decide not to do something because he feels he isn't ready and needs more practice.  I never push him when he feels nervous or make him feel bad for not trying something new.  I trust that he will let me know when he is ready to try something.

So, that being said, what prompted me to express how I parent my son when it comes to fear and freedom (especially with regards to the outdoors)?  Probably these comments I've been hearing a lot lately at a few different parks.  And believe it or not I have a picture to go with each time another mom spoke near Luis saying these things:

"Be careful, don't hurt yourself."

"You're making me nervous."
















"Where is that boy's mother?" ( I actually laugh about this one because I'm usually right next to them but they are probably looking for a Mexican lady, LOL)
















"______don't do what he just did." (I get this one the most, especially when he jumps off of his swing seat)

















Luckily Luis is oblivious to all of these fear messages and just goes about his joyful day climbing, swinging and jumping off of things.

Now, don't get me wrong, I understand when another parent gets startled or feels uneasy when Luis does certain things near them and I usually find a way to put their mind at ease and share that I am aware of what he is doing and I have seen him in this situation many times.  I tell them that I understand how it might look but he is very capable and thank them for their concern. 

Elfin Forest Adventure

Living so close to a lake with great hiking trails and playgrounds has given us plenty of hours of fun in the great outdoors.  But, yesterday we decided to branch out of our hiking comfort zone and try a new trail.  We did a quick internet search for hiking in Escondido and found Elfin Forest.  Their "Botanical Trail" is great for kids and less than a mile long.  We printed our map and our Botanical Trail Guide designed to introduce us to some of the plant communities and help us identify some of the species found along the trail.  There were numbered wooden stumps along the trail that coincided with numbers on the trail guide and a description of what we were looking at. 

Luis was so excited to locate the numbers and find out what we would see next.  Our first stop was Poison Oak.  We learned a little rhyme to help us remember what poison oak looked like, "Leaves of three, stay away from me."  I always wondered what Poison Oak looked like and never really took the time to check it out up close.  Now Luis and I know what to look for on future hiking trips.

Our next stop was Black Sage.  Our trail guide description told us to gently rub one of the leaves to smell the strong scent of sage.  Here is Luis smelling the Sage:

There were 25 more things on our list to see, touch, smell and learn about along our path.  Every once in awhile Luis would stop and inform me of what direction we were going.  I have noticed that when he has something to hold on to and something specific to look for he enjoys the trip and doesn't get tired as fast.

The creek at the end of the trail was a great way to finish our new adventure.  Luis made up a game using sticks and the flow of the creek and my favorite part was sitting on the rocks and just soaking up the nature all around us.  Here is a picture of Luis "thinking" on a rock in the creek:

Wait, I almost forgot.  Luis' favorite rock on our trip was this rock shaped like a "man's face" in the side of the hill:

Happy Hiking !!

Here is a great link for help finding nature in your area:

http://www.naturerocks.org/

Laughter is the best medicine !!

Laughter doesn't taste bad, it's free and has real health benefits.  We should do a little bit of laughing every day.

http://stress.about.com/od/stresshealth/a/laughter.htm

As I type this blog post I can hear Tatiana and Luis cracking up in the background.  They are watching America's Funniest Home Videos.  A family favorite.  We just can't get enough.  When I was young, my mom had a video camera in her hand wherever we went.  We used to joke about having our whole lives on video.  When I get the chance, I am going to locate some of these old videos and see if I can share some of them.  Meanwhile, we will have to stick to laughing at the expense of other families and their mishaps OR this video of Tom Hanks and his daughter.  By the way, Tom Hanks is my favorite actor of ALL time.

Enjoy !!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPLWKBWkn3s

Wired to Attach

"Human beings are biologically wired to attach." - Dr. Gabor Mate

I came across this video of Dr. Gabor Mate where he speaks about children and attachment.  I would have to say that of all the videos or articles I have shared, in my opinion, this one is the most important.  Dr. Mate seems to tie together everything that I believe about human/child development and parenting in an AMAZING speech.  If there is a message that I would like to convey to the world, this would be the one. 

I will be getting his book as soon as possible !!

Enjoy:

http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/6519665